Does fear affect your life?

 

Of all emotions, fear is one of the most common. Fear can hold you back, influence you in what you want. Your wishes can be delayed by fear. Fear is an emotion that often arises from, for example, something you have experienced in life. Many people therefore think that their fear is limited, and in some ways it is. Until you look further, you can go many ways with fear. The side we all know is being led by fear, so we feel limited more often than necessary. In this blog you can read how you can adjust this.

 

 

 

 

In this I take the example: love! In love you can be afraid of not being good enough. Suppose you have been in a relationship in the past that involved infidelity. It has made you insecure, hurt, and most likely damaged your confidence. Because of this previous experience, you may experience difficulty in a new relationship because this experience has heightened your alertness. You want to pick up the signal faster of infidelity, or dishonesty, but the emotion of fear also comes up. The fear of losing the person in question, of being rejected on your emotion. On your previous experience where this most likely comes from. Sometimes it is even deeper, it has been one experience after another. You can react differently. You can actually go in several directions, there are people who get angry faster and actually use every signal to (unconsciously) accuse the other. The other will withdraw and silently be guided by fear. However you approach it at the moment, there is no right or wrong. It is learning to deal with the experience and all the fear that comes with it. Is the other worthy of your trust this time? Incidentally, you can sketch any situation in which the emotion of fear can predominate. Consciously or unconsciously.

 

 

 

 

It is very important to first dig into yourself, where this fear emotion comes from. And suppose this is, for example, the consequence of a previous experience in love through infidelity. Then the fear comes from a previous 'similar' experience, where your head already chooses the direction because of the fear. So suppose it happens to me again.. all that powerlessness and sadness, I don't want that anymore.. It is the strength and power that gives you the fear. You can tame fear with gratitude and love, and taking care of yourself. You can practice in this example: What if things go well? You can learn to communicate about your fear and to cross the threshold to confide in the other person. And with that, different kinds of fears can present themselves, but it is important to keep telling yourself that this is the consequence of a previous 'similar' experience. Since the previous experience also happened in trust in a relationship. So it's learning to trust again and that's not easy. But certainly not impossible. In fact, you can start today.

 

 

 

 

You can replace the fear with grateful thoughts. How much have you grown from this previous experience? How much did you learn? What have been all the beautiful moments after this experience? Did this instructive lesson help you further in life? Or if it's been a while, do you think there's something to learn about yourself or the other person? I can assure you it will make you grow sooner or later. It can be learned, (practice makes perfect) to turn it into a blessing. You are who you are because of your past experiences. Over the years you become wiser, you recognize signals faster. And also so: through experiences you arrive at your destination where you wish to be. So what is sometimes not a blessing right away can become a blessing later on. Replacing fear with gratitude is the best tip I've ever received, I use it daily, and it helps me stay motivated. It helps me to see the blessings in difficult times, and to focus on all the beautiful things around me. Wealth is in wisdom, and wisdom comes from experience.

 

Focus on gratitude, for example in the example above would be a good start:

 

Today, I take a step to share my fear with my new partner. If your partner already knows about your past experiences, but it doesn't help you to control this fear (which can also turn into jealousy), let your partner know about it. You can indicate to your partner that it is still a large part of you, despite you want to trust. Your partner can then take this into account, because that is also (Self) love. Learn to understand and respect each other. Another example could be: I replace my fear thought with a grateful thought, because you cannot be fearful and grateful at the same time.